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I May Be A Hippocrite...

By no means am I against interracial relationships, BUT I am wary of the Black man, White woman combo. Only because, it's significantly more common than others and I cannot recall for the life of me any that last very long. Not to mention the complicated history between Blacks and Whites. I'm even less secure of the validity between Black male athletes and their White mates. (I don't think I'll need to explain myself with that one).

However, a good friend of mine (who is White and I've only known her to date Black athletes...who may or may not be on the professional level) has been in a long term relationship with a soon to be pro, black as midnight, football player. Not since the very beginning of their relationship did I doubt their coupledoom, and I enjoy witnessing how happy they are together. They are truly in love and best friends. I've already been trying to figue out what their children would look like (which is as hard as interpreting Chinese).

Am I a hippocrite since I don't scrutinize their relationship as I do others, or have I actually witnessed true love? Can anyone else relate?

In A Relationship

One of my favorite things about these internet social sites like Facebook and Myspace is looking at people's relationship status. Personally, if I can help it I would never broadcast my relationships (or lack of). It just seems a little juvenile, not to mention, attracts a bunch of scandalous individuals. It's something about applying the label of "in a relationship" that sends a signal to every trifling homewrecking individual to test their skills and others fidelities. Even I have been guilty of looking a little too hard at the profile of a "taken" guy, whom I would have ordinarily just browsed over. There is something alluring about a man who will expose their feelings for another in front of millions of voyeurs.

But, my favorite thing about the relationship status' are when the two couples don't seem to match. He is "single", while she is proudly "married". How can that be? Maybe he is like me, and doesn't believe that something as trivial as selecing a preset option doesn't represent all of the day to day efforts of being someone's significant other. Or maybe, she is a little confused as to what "in a relationship" means. And I don't blame her, what does it mean? I'm involved in plenty relationships myself, albeit non of them are exclusive. If you've been dating for years, but you both have sex with others or even make "friends" that the other doesn't know about (which I see everyday) are you still in a relationship? Oh wait, maybe that's when you check "in an open relationship".

And speaking of open relationships, it always brings a smile to my face to see the neighborhood ho "in an open relationship". As if they could be in anything more serious. Now is this relationsip with only one person, or are they involved in numerous open relationships? Also, does the other person know that they're the second half of an open relationship? And also why would they be proud of being involved with numerous people. I'm by no means a prude but, a lady also never tells.

Anyway, I'd rather not state my relationship status online. There's something about those obnoxious relationships, with the back and forth posts on the profiles and the tons of pictures of the couple hugging and smiling in bed, and the faux "married" status that just screams "doomed to fail". Which they usually do.

P.S. my skeptical heart always skips a beat when someone suddenly is "no longer in a relationship" . Awww!

Welcome!

I don't know how many blogs like this one there are out there, but I'm interested! What I'm not interested in is hearing about who Britney ran over today or the status of So and So's pregnancy. My life is waaaaay too funny to get sucked in on that. What I do like to focus on is this crazy ritual we call dating. And at 23 I still can't get it right. So on this blog, you lucky people will get to witness the craziness I have to put up with, as well as letting me have a crack at you own dating issues. I can give advice better than I can take it. Trust me :-)
Thanks for the support!
Kiko M.